Best Holiday Wishes from the Daymark Group! As we approach the Holiday Season and New Year, many begin to review and reflect on this year while planning and making resolutions for the next. I have often wondered why resolutions fall by the wayside, and how we can positively support each other for success. I heard Harvard Professor Robert Kegan address this topic at a recent Institute of Coaching conference. The brain is tricky, he explained. No matter how sincerely we want to break a habit or set a goal such as weight loss, we have an inherent immunity to change. Robert Kegan and Lisa Laskow Lahey explain that we’re physiologically “lured” into doing what we’ve always done, no matter how strong our intentions. And yet, some people do succeed! We all know ex-smokers, nail biters and formerly obese people. Kegan explained that you cannot fix an adaptive problem with a technical solution. A diet, for example, is a technical solution to being overweight: To lose weight, eat less and exercise more. But the problem is more complex. Unless you change your mindset (an adaptive solution), you won’t sustain new habits. According to Ron Heifetz, author and leadership expert, one of the [...]
For years, TED (Technology, Entertainment and Design) has given the world access to thought- conversations from some of the greatest minds of our day. Interesting though the videos may be, rarely does a manager have 25 minutes to spare for something that doesn’t directly tie into their day-to-day. Inspired by TED’s recently published list of the 20 most-watched TED Talks to date, I’ve curated three videos that I feel offer valuable insights on how to lead, motivate and inspire employees. What can an orchestra conductor teach you about micromanagement? Quite a bit, actually. Using the unique styles of six 20th-century conductors, conductor Itay Talgam illustrates a compelling lesson in leadership. “Authority is not enough to make them your partners,” says Talgam. Partnership–which makes the best music–requires a conductor to adopt a more balanced leadership style: As Talgam sees it, it’s the ability to establish partnerships is what makes good conductors (and leaders) great. While a conductor must give players direction (which requires a certain degree of control) a great conductor treats his players as partners. Focusing on making music together, rather than on controlling each note–they will achieve greater success. What does Al Gore’s speechwriter want you to know about [...]
As mentioned earlier, I’ve been reading The Winner’s Brain, where authors Jeff Brown and Mark Fenske write about strategies great minds use to achieve success. I’m summarizing t
“Many high performers would rather do the wrong things well than do the right thing poorly.”
~ Thomas J. DeLong and Sara DeLong, “The Paradox of Excellence,” Harvard
In the work I do as a coach, I speak with many amazing clients who have achieved a lot in their work and in their lives. And yet, some are dissatisfied and don’t feel successful. By other people’s standards, they could feel really good about themselves, yet they don’t.
Lately I have been asked a few times about the ROI for coaching. I prefer to think of it as the Business Case For Coaching.
Empathy can be defined as the ability to see things from the other person’s point of view. Goleman defines it as the ability to read other people. Empathy means that you can recall the same feelings of others based on your own memories.
The business community has embraced the concept of emotional intelligence and its importance ever since Daniel Goleman’s best-selling book, Working with Emotional Intelligence (1998). But the challenge that lies ahead is to demonstrate that such competencies can be acquired, and that they significantly impact performance.
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